Kinky Butch-A Queer View
Thoughts about porn
I recently encountered some negative reaction to feminist/queer porn and it got me thinking. The people who I encountered seemed to be firmly of the opinion that all porn is wrong and against feminist principles. Firstly I admit this is not a topic I know a massive amount about so these are just personal... »
Toys
It seems it doesn’t take long once you get into BDSM to gather together a collection of interesting and entertaining toys. Or it certainly didn’t take us very long but maybe we were just exceptionally keen converts! Our toy collection lives in a (reasonably) large chest by the side of the bed, my side... »
Dirty Talk
Language is extremely powerful, the words we use or the labels we apply to ourselves can have a massive impact. During sex or a BDSM scene the use of language can significantly enhance emotion as well as push boundaries and add additional layers to the physical action. In particular, talking dirty, name calling and... »
Realities
Everyone has their own individual reality. We all experience life through a host of factors even if we are sharing the same experiences. I could go to a concert along with thousands of others but every single person will see, hear and feel it differently. Physically no one will be in exactly the same... »
Touch
I identify as a stone butch which means (amongst other things) that I am particular about how and where I am touched. But conversely touch is more important to me since I recognised myself as stone. I am more aware of touch than ever before,I think about it a lot more, both the negatives... »
Pride
We recently went to our local Pride event as we do every year. It is always a big occasion for us which includes lots of family and friends as well as a decent amount of food and alcohol. It was a fabulous day, it didn’t rain, we laughed a lot and as always just... »
Deviant
I am a deviant. Everyday I contravene what is considered normal in my society by simply being who I am. I am biologically female, I have female genitalia and breasts yet I never dress in clothes defined as ‘female’, no skirts or dresses or lingerie. I do not behave in ways which might be... »
Permission
My last column talked about control and domination, both of which I want yet neither of which is possible without permission. Permission is agreement, acknowledgement and approval. Permission is also consent and freedom. There are for me two types of permission as far as BDSM is concerned, external and internal. External permission comes from... »
Control and Domination
The words control and domination are similar, in the definitions I looked at often each word is used to clarify the other. Control is similar to domination, domination is similar to control, yet they have vastly different connotations for me. Originally this piece was going to be about control, I started it and very... »
Clothes maketh the…
Throughout our adult life we are all faced with choices about how we present ourselves through our clothes, hairstyles, body modifications etc. While we have choices there are certain social, family and peer pressures which we will be subjected to. Sometimes they can be shrugged off, sometimes we cave in and get carried along... »
























