Category: Kinky Butch-A Queer View

Thoughts about porn

Thoughts about porn

I recently encountered some negative reaction to feminist/queer porn and it got me thinking. The people who I encountered seemed to be firmly of the opinion that all porn is wrong and against feminist...

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Toys

Toys

It seems it doesn’t take long once you get into BDSM to gather together a collection of interesting and entertaining toys. Or it certainly didn’t take us very long but maybe we were just...

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Dirty Talk

Dirty Talk

Language is extremely powerful, the words we use or the labels we apply to ourselves can have a massive impact. During sex or a BDSM scene the use of language can significantly enhance emotion...

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Realities

Realities

Everyone has their own individual reality. We all experience life through a host of factors even if we are sharing the same experiences. I could go to a concert along with thousands of others...

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Touch

Touch

I identify as a stone butch which means (amongst other things) that I am particular about how and where I am touched. But conversely touch is more important to me since I recognised myself...

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Pride

Pride

We recently went to our local Pride event as we do every year. It is always a big occasion for us which includes lots of family and friends as well as a decent amount...

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Deviant

Deviant

I am a deviant. Everyday I contravene what is considered normal in my society by simply being who I am. I am biologically female, I have female genitalia and breasts yet I never dress...

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Permission

Permission

My last column talked about control and domination, both of which I want yet neither of which is possible without permission. Permission is agreement, acknowledgement and approval. Permission is also consent and freedom. There...

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Control and Domination

Control and Domination

The words control and domination are similar, in the definitions I looked at often each word is used to clarify the other. Control is similar to domination, domination is similar to control, yet they...

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Clothes maketh the…

Clothes maketh the…

Throughout our adult life we are all faced with choices about how we present ourselves through our clothes, hairstyles, body modifications etc. While we have choices there are certain social, family and peer pressures...

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Naked

Naked

Naked is not our normal state yet it is our natural one, we’re not born in clothes but are very quickly put into them. Once our bodies are covered there is an increased pressure...

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Breaking Down the Barriers

Breaking Down the Barriers

As teenagers we go through a period of sexual awakening becoming aware of our bodies and exploring what potentially turns us on. It may be that we question our sexuality, indulge in some experimentation...

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Vanilla

Vanilla

Lately I’ve been wondering once you have started being kinky, once your feet are on that path can you ever really have vanilla sex again? Or is vanilla lost forever, permanently retired and unreachable...

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Rituals

Rituals

I’m a creature of habit, I like things to happen in the order I expect otherwise it can throw me off kilter a bit. Don’t get me wrong I’m no so habit bound that...

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Kinky

Kinky

I love labels and I make no secret of it, for me labels have power and I want that power for myself. I appreciate that many people don’t like them, that the idea of...

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