A Critique of Betty Dodsons How to Squirt Video

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25 Responses

  1. Sexorcism says:

    Thanks for providing a valid counterargument. I suppose that it is difficult to abandon the idea of clitoris as primary and central when you’ve never experienced a gspot orgasm. Disappointing statement from Dodson and Ross. Hope that they, too, can experience the power of the gspot some day.

    • Domina Doll says:

      Great comments Sexorcism. I really wish they could embrace their G-spots as well. Then they would understand what the “hype” is all about. But, as Betty Dodson mentions in her article “G-spot Revisited” every time she sees Beverly Whipple (The G Spot: And Other Discoveries about Human Sexuality) at a convention, she says “I can’t find my G-spot but I’m still looking.” I do believe she has tried, but just prefers to use her clitoris for orgasm, which is fine. The clitoris is great. I love mine and for a quick fix it is perfect. But when I want a deep body, shaking orgasm, I go to my G-spot. 🙂

    • Oddkin says:

      I don’t get much out of G-spot stimulation myself, but even clitorally it takes time, effort and crazy vibrations, so maybe I’m just not very sensitive overall. Maybe my arms peter out before I can thrust myself to that point. Whatever it is, it doesn’t do much for me. That said I LOVE girthy dildo’s and the pressure they apply, and I would never discount other womens sexual experiences the way Betty Dodson seems to do. Every body is different, some people still can’t deal…

  2. Epiphora says:

    Ugh. This is really frustrating. I completely agree about the agitating tone of the video, and am dismayed at the ridiculous lies that are being perpetuated here (mainly that squirting is akin to pissing). Great deconstruction, Domina. Now I’m gonna go squirt all over my Throe, because YES, there are actual things other than sheets to squirt upon! WHO KNEW?

  3. mivox says:

    Ugh #2. I didn’t even watch the video … it sounds just like the classic condescending radical feminist schtick of “if you only understood, you’d agree with us,” which pisses me off to no end. Sexual education and liberation is a wonderful thing, but when you’re told there’s only ONE right way to do it, it’s not actually liberating at all.

    • Domina Doll says:

      I so agree mivox. Why should we come so far only to fall back again? Betty Dodson knows this herself firsthand. I’m just amazed she would have such a negative public opinion about it. Thanks for your comments!

  4. amber says:

    This was beautifully written, you can tell you are very passionate about this subject and that you – I love that! I think all orgasms should be embraced, clitoral or g-spot. A woman’s sexuality is gorgeous, and I love that women are finally understanding that they can ejaculate. Anything that lets women embrace their sexuality and hone their masturbation skills is good in my book. I love the clitoris, I love the G-spot, and I refuse to choose a favorite because I don’t need to, I have both, and I’ll love them, and in turn love myself, amazingly well!

    Also, I agree that it’s not really possible to actually explain a squirting orgasm unless you’ve had one. I mean, how can you really describe any sort of orgasm to a woman who’s never had one before? It’s a hard thing to put into words.

    Good for you for voicing your opinion. You know…YOU should think of writing your own G-spot book. You have such great frie about you when talking about female sexuality and orgasms and the G-spot. I’d pre-order several copies! 🙂 MWAH!

    • Domina Doll says:

      Thank you lovely! Hehe, I’d love to write a book on the G-spot, but not sure I could do any better than the authors who already have like Deborah Sundahl and Violet blue. But if I di, you get the first copy for free 😉

  5. amber says:

    Oh and I *love* that picture you used for the article!! You’re freaking fantastic. xoxo.

  6. Domina Doll says:

    Oh Epiphora! I love you! Glad you enjoyed the critique. The video stuck in my head all week and I just had to reply to it. I don’t attack anyone’s clitoris or right to have clitoral orgasms. So it bothers me that a sex educator would make fun of this topic like this. Thanks for the comment! 🙂 happy squirting!

  7. Adriana says:

    that sounds so disappointing. I had read some really good things about Betty Dodson but that really lowers her in my view.

  8. DominaDoll says:

    Well I still admire Betty Dodson despite having a difference of opinion on G-spot and female ejaculation. After all, she is the “Mother of Masturbation” and I probably wouldn’t be spouting off about my sexuality in public and masturbating so freely without pioneers like her. I know she is intelligent and knows her stuff. But for some reason she wants to continue a battle that to me is obsolete.

  9. ellinoz says:

    You might enjoy the more than 100 pages of discussion at Literotica.

    http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892&page=101

    I am glad you wrote your review.

    I’ve been watching the You Tubes the last couple of months and well, I’m kind of sad that Betty and Co have gone this way – it doesn’t appear all that embracing of the extraordinary range of pleasure that women are capable of experiencing and feels a bit dismissive.
    .-= ellinoz´s last blog ..Tico Tico =-.

    • Domina Doll says:

      Thanks for visiting Ellinoz and for your comments! Yes, when visitng their site they have very little relevant info on the G-spot. It seems strange to embrace just one type of pleasure and not consider the other kinds, when you are a sexual educator. I’ll check out those links too!

  10. Domina Doll says:

    Thanks to all the visitors popping by from dodsonandross.com! Say hi, leave a comment, don’t be shy!

  11. Matt says:

    You have a gift for writing. Everything flowed so nicely and you made me laugh like, 50 times. I enjoy reading a woman’s view on sexual stuff. It’s informative and interesting.

    • Domina Doll says:

      Thanks Matt! I’m glad to know that guys can enjoy our site as well. I know the majority of readers are women, but I would like to have more content and more writers that would appeal to men’s sexuality issues, other than just the eye candy 🙂 If you have any ideas, let me know. Glad you enjoyed the piece!

  12. Alicia says:

    Domina, spot on!

    You really nailed this interview (pun just slightly intended) with some valid points. How degrading was their tone to those of us that have great pleasure from squirting? I LOVE the mess. To me it’s sexy as hell. As sexy as a man who leaves his orgasmic trail from a great session of pleasure.

    As for the g-spot debate. They just haven’t have one. I have had the most full body experiences from proper stimulation.

    I truly call myself triple orgasmic. I feel an amazing release from clitoral, gspot and squirting orgasims. The joy being, I have a menu to choose from. And yes, a woman just needs to truly love her body, relax and enjoy. Lots of lovely things for us to learn…no need to be snotty or catty to those who are different. I thought we were beyond those times. Ah, well…

    I very much appreciate your thoughtful couterpart and I agree emphatically!

    Orgasmically,
    A

    • Domina Doll says:

      Thanks Alicia!

      It is great to get feedback like this. I was utterly amazed at their lack of professionalism during this video. I really think that Betty should know better of all people how it feels to have a part of your sexuality unvalidated and scorned. It just seems so hypocritical to me that she would be so disrespectful, when she herself fought so hard to get her sexual ideal (the clitoris) rightly recognized as a valid part of female sexuality. It seems like an US vs THEM attitude that is very childish and hardly helpful at all. As a sex educator I expected much more from Betty Dodson and am pretty disappointed in her encouraging disinformation and prejudice concerning the G-spot. And, she never even had the BALLs to reply to me about this.

      So, I guess she has nothing intelligent to add to the conversation…

  13. Betty Dodson was awesome in the 60’s and 70’s, having orgies with Alex Comfort (Joy of Sex) and really taking female anatomy education by storm.

    The past few years she’s been disappointing. She has a column in BUST magazine where she gives BAD advice. One woman wrote in asking how she could have better orgasms and Dodson dismissed her, saying she should be grateful for the orgasms she has. I would have suggested all kinds of things like how to extend orgasms, toys, anal, kegels,etc. And Ross just echoes what Dodson says, she doesn’t seem to bring much to the table.

    I’m glad you spoke up about this, I thought it was just me. Sex educators and sex advice columnists should be passionate about what they impart. They have the chance to really make a difference in people’s lives. Keep things positive!

    Oh and I say the messier sex is, the better.

    • Domina Doll says:

      TBK- Thanks so much for your intelligent comments on this topic. It is so rare to get good comments! Although I haven’t read Dodson’s advice on Bust, I am not surprised. I have seen the other advice that she and Ross have given people on their site. (if you have that link to Bust, please post it! 🙂

      Too bad. Dodson seems to have become jaded or bitter. She was such a pioneer and someone I had looked up to for so long. I loved that she would go against the grain and speak her mind. But she seems to be trapped in a 70s time bubble now. And, Ross is only her silly little puppet that echoes whatever Dodson says. I worry that many of her readers are of her age group and maybe not as “liberated” as she is, and certainly not as educated about their bodies and their sexual response. The clitoris IS important, but to overlook the G-spot and other erogenous zones is a a disservice to her readers.

      No woman is the same and everyone has different triggers that may be orgasmic for them. And, you can always improve your orgasmic experience with the correct knowledge, practice and a willingness to learn.

      Thank you for your comments!

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