Confessions from a Phone Sex Professional
Do you remember the days of 1-900 numbers? Well, you may have thought those days had passed but now the 1-900 phone numbers have been traded in for apps. For example, on sites such as Arousr you can text, video chat or have phone calls with professional sex chat hosts. In my experience I’ve had some wild times chatting with members using the phone sex option. One thing is for certain. It takes real skill to pull off an excellent phone sex experience. Today let’s get into the dirty details behind the scenes as we get into five confessions of a sex chat professional. These are my most asked questions I get about my line of work.
Does Phone Sex Actually Turn You On?
It really depends on whom I have the pleasure of (or at times displeasure) of phone chatting with. It’s just like any relationship, it really comes down to chemistry. On my side it’s about how engaged I am in getting to know the subtle kinks and nuances of a person. On the callers side it’s about how open they are to sharing their kinks and personality traits. I could have the hottest erotic story to share but if the caller is close-minded or too concerned with how they might come across then the call doesn’t get hot it stays tepid. The best phone chat sessions I’ve had that turned me on are when the caller is horny, open, willing and ready to be turned on in any which way possible. In those cases, I most definitely get hot and often will apply the kinky things we chat about to things I play out in my own private life. I also have heard the same from callers. They have confided that what we talked about was so erotic they later tried it out with their partners/playmates.
Do You Physically Act Out Your Phone Sex?
Similar to getting turned on I will (at times) also act out what I am talking about. Again, it comes down to the caller and I’s chemistry on the other side of the receiver. If things are getting heated, we’re on the same sexual wavelength and have the similar kinks in common. I definitely will play along with my caller. You have to be in it for this kind of thing to be exciting. The beauty of phone sex is that both people have their anonimity to a certain degree. We can’t see each other therefore it actually heightens our sense of sound! A low breath, a dull moan sounds thunderous when you’re in the moment with the caller and essentially blind-folded from viewing.
Who is Your Worst Caller?
My worst experiences are always with callers who want to rush their time with me to get to the finish line faster. I don’t understand this mindset. In order to be in a stress free environment you can’t be on a clock or feel timed. It’s incredibly restrictive and counterintuitive. It’s not a sport.. It’s phone sex! We aren’t here to keep score of time… only orgasms. We are here to enjoy the time we spend together. Whether you cum or you just play it’s about sexual fulfillment within those moments engaged with one another. I always hate it when callers come to me with a short time frame and want a ton of things covered at once. Those tend to be the callers who are the most demanding and demanding which also is a huge turn off for me. Ideally a caller should come with at least 7+ minutes of time available to chat and get into an escape together.
Who is Your Favorite Caller?
I have a few favorites! First and foremost it takes more than one time for me to have a favorite caller. My best callers are the ones who are regular or at least semi-regular. It feels like you’re talking to a friend when there’s a consistent connection happening. This can be once a month to once a week. When we start to get to know each other it really deepens the sexual nature of our chat.
One of my favorite regulars calls me every Wednesday. He says I’m his “Humpday Treat”. It’s really sweet to have that call to look forward to each week and to be able to plan things I want to chat about together. We will do a lot of roleplay scenarios and he’s always down to get kinky by letting me dominate him as well. That caller stands out to me the most right now. He’s regular, loyal, sweet and sexy.
Do You Ever Get Female Callers?
Yes! While very rare I have on occasion had female callers and admirers. Women need phone sex too. I have noticed since the pandemic there have been more females seeking this type of pleasure. A lot of women are bored at home, single and not mingling, or curious now that they’ve had time to reflect what things would be like with another woman. It’s an enjoyable change of pace when a female calls. They are always very kind, and gentle. Since we work with the same equipment (so to speak) things tend to get heated really easily. It’s also pretty hot hearing a change of tone in the voice inflection on the phone. I’m always quite complimented when I get a female caller. They are rare, but they do happen and it’s hot when it does. I encourage all females to try phone sex if they are lacking any satisfaction in their sex lives. You don’t have to be a lesbian to get off with another woman. You just have to be open to the experience.
About the Author
I’m Femme Fatale, Fetish model, and Alpha Tamer. I have a vast knowledge and affinity for Fetish culture. You can find me every week writing for Arousr and if you’re lucky you might even see me available to chat online about your favorite kinks! My favorite fetish is Domination.
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